The Willow

The Willow

So I decided to officially start my own wedding and event planning company in August of 2017. After moving to Maryland to begin my new chapter, I decided it was time to step out in faith and do something big. Planning had always been a passion of mine, so why not get paid to do it, I thought. The thing is, when I moved here, I was scared to step out. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the Maryland Wedding Industry, it is supersaturated with Nigerian wedding planners. I didn’t want to become another Nigerian planner. I knew I wanted to do something different but I didn’t know how to separate myself.

I remember doing research on all the planners in Maryland and it just seemed like there were a million and one already here. How do I stand out, what makes me different, why would people want to work with someone with no website, no clients, no Instagram, no reviews and frankly no experience in Maryland? All these horrid thoughts crowded my head but I was sure that this is what God wanted me to do. I began looking for people to shadow and intern with hoping someone would want free help, at the end of the day I had 4 years experience planning and running weddings, so why would they say no? Fortunately for me, all I received was no after no after no. Why fortunately, well it was God’s way of telling me to be bold and courageous and not to be afraid. He was telling me that I didn’t have to hide under the covering of someone else’s business because He will support me and help me build mine.

Now it was time to create a business… what will the name be? I tried to come up with names but nothing seemed right. I even went as far as to recruit family and friends and bribe my little cousins with a share of a no-name business if they came up with great name. All those efforts yielded nothing….Nothing! I remember one day while praying, I knelt down on the floor in the room and said “God i will not leave this spot until you give me a name”, I guess it was my little version of Jacob wrestling with God. A few minutes later I heard very clearly “Willow“. I remember thinking… “huh, Willow…? Like Willow Smith? God what is a willow?” It sounded so weird but it was just perfect, well compared to my previous idea of Sashey’s Soirees , LOL.

So why Willow? Well, I googled Willow I found, “slender, graceful, resilient, determined, courageous and beautiful”. All words that I hoped to God defined me… well slender maybe if i keep going to the gym, but the rest just seemed so perfect. It was like God was encouraging me to become more like a Willow. The next day I spoke to my Aunt who said Willow… that’s perfect you can name your event center The Willow and I laughed because i knew this is a dream that God placed on my heart and I am excited to see it happen.

So where is Willow now and how is it going? In the 5 months The Willow has been alive, I have booked 4 weddings. Can somebody say GOD IS FAITHFUL!!! With no reviews, no brochures, no pictures, no MD experience, no nothing… God continues to show himself. He has shown me that all it takes is a little faith

Join me on my wedding journey… follow @thewillowevents

Lots of Love!

-MzB

 

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Valentines Day…What’s that?

Valentines Day…What’s that?

Valentine’s day… what’s that? Not only have I never had a Valentine, in the many years that I have been alive, I have only celebrated Valentines day once.. thanks to my awesome college roomies in 2011.

You see in my home, Valentines day was not Valentines day that the world has grown to obsess over. It wasn’t a day I spent out with bae or being all romantical with a guy who claimed to love me. In actuality it took me a while to understand why people were acting so crazy when this day was not about them but it was actually about my parents. For the past 27 years, Valentines day has been my parents anniversary and that’s what I have always known it to be and celebrated. It is the day I get to celebrate the awesome marriage my parents have displayed in front of me my whole life. Not only do they showcase what a Godly happy marriage should be like on this day, they display it every single day. Don’t get me wrong, no marriage is perfect, but these two awesome people I get to call my parents have shown me what God wants marriage to look like. They have shown me how to forgive, how to be humble, how to serve, how to love and how to embody Christ in your marriage.

Until recently, I did not know how blessed I am to have parents who don’t fight in front of you, parents who pray for you, parents who want to ensure that the love  between each and every single member of the family is unbroken. I didn’t know that this was not the norm until I started talking to other people about growing up and how their parents were. You see for me, waking up everyday at 6 am for family devotion is normal. Talking to your parents about life and relationships is normal. Laughing and acting a damn fool in the house is normal. Little did I know that all these “normal” things are blessings from God and not to be taken for granted.

For many of us, the relationship we see between our parents has a huge impact on how we see and define relationships for ourselves in the future. The picture of love and marriage that my parents have chosen to paint for my siblings and I is one that has molded and shaped my thinking about what my future marriage should look like. It has helped me to be excited to have devotion with my children and husband and ensure there is always laughter in my home. It has given me a positive image of a happy marriage, one that I am grateful to God for.

So on this Valentines day.. aka my parents wedding anniversary, I say to married couples, be careful what picture you are painting for your children. Be the example of what a godly marriage should look like every single day and not just one day a year. Your children are always watching and most learned habits are unspoken. To single people, whatever you have been through is not your fault. Learn to forgive your parents; They can only pour out of what they were given.  Let God heal you by letting go of all your hurt. Your past hurts are not an indication of what your future will look like.

And finally to my parents…thank you mommy and daddy for showing me what love looks like everyday and not just on February 14th. 

Happy 31st Anniversary. I wish you many more!

Happy birthday to my baby bro, Valentine 😜!

-MzB

Are you Content?

Are you Content?

“A fickle heart lusts after what it doesn’t have”.

Contentment… what is it? Well let’s talk about it.

I am currently reading a devotional by John Bevere, called Killing Kryptonite  and one of the devotions talked about contentment in God. So what is contentment, well according to the dictionary it is “a state of happiness and satisfaction”. To me contentment is being happy with what you have, who you are, and where you currently are in life. For the past few years, this is something that I have truly struggled with, but God is showing me daily, reasons why I should be grateful and content.

In this world of social media, I can understand how difficult it is to be content. The highlights of people’s lives surround us so much, that we can’t help but compare our lives to everyone else’s. For me, comparing my “boring” life to the “exciting” lives of others was a daily struggle. My friends and family members were getting married, having babies, going on trips, enjoying amazing jobs but it just seemed like my life was not that exciting, even though it was. Why was I not where I had planned I would be?

I always had an idea of how I thought my life would turn out, but God has shown me that His plans are not my plans. But just for humor and transparency sake, here was my timeline:

  • Graduate college at 21- that didn’t happen – ENGINEERING!
  • Work as a consultant and travel the world – NOPE
  • Marry at 25 – Hahahahaha, NOPE!
  • 4 kids by 30- only chance of this happening is if I have 4 kids in the next 2 years and I’m currently single! LOL
  • Start my own business while working and retire from the workforce by 35 – With God on my side… this is definitely POSSIBLE and I know I’m on the right path….

You see, we tend to have these plans that we make for ourselves but we always forget that our maker created us for a purpose so we have to include Him in everything. Also, His ways are not our ways and His plans are definitely not like our plans. The best part about His plans are that they are for our good- Jeremiah 29:11.

The best part about being able to look back at my 18 year old self and laugh is that although I’m no where near what I thought my life would look like, I’m definitely in the best place I could possibly be because I’m in the center of God’s will and His plans for my life and I am sure of it. All these plans I had for myself were all self-centered and not God centered. I was so focused on what I wanted for me, that I didn’t think about what God could want for me.

So am I content? Well, I am learning to be grateful to God for EVERYTHING; good and bad. I am learning that to be content I have to be grateful. I am learning that contentment is a choice. How can you be happy and satisfied with your life if you are not thankful for the things that you do have? Also, our contentment is rooted in loving yourself and in the love of God. It is knowing that God is enough, no matter we lack! Being truly content causes us to live in the abundance of God’s love, a place where you can’t help but just be grateful.

Lots of Love

-MzB

Jeremiah 29:11 – For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.