No new friends… I hear that a lot. Many people talk about their friends and how loyal and awesome they are. They would rather stick to the friends they currently have than get to know new people and build new relationships. Nothing against my current friends but hellooo new people. I want to build as many lasting relationships as I can. There is so much of me I’m ready to give and share with the world. God has placed this desire in me to love on people and I’m excited to do just that. Meeting new people is wonderful but let’s be real, there is a significant difference between someone you know and an actual friend.
Let’s make it clear…
- If you can’t make fun of each other and laugh about it, that’s not your friend.
- If you’ve never had a fight before (not necessarily physically), that’s not your friend.
- Someone who agrees with everything you say, is not your friend.
- If you cannot be transparent with the person, and tell them your real problems… not fake surface problems… that’s not your friend!!
- If you only talk to them when you see them…. helloooooo can we say not your friend.
- If they don’t know your first, middle and last name…. not your friend!
- If you are both Christians and you can’t pray together or talk about God together…. NOPE!
- If you have to censor or filter yourself or just plain pretend to be something you’re not around this person… that is not your friend!
- If they only call you when they need or want something…not your friend!
- If they can’t check you or call you out on your foolish ways, let’s say it together… NOT YOUR FRIEND!!
A friendship is more than a surface when I see you, relationship. It is intentional. Like any other committed relationship, friendship is work! It is not something you just fall into. Friends hold each other accountable, friends check on each other. Friends look out for each other and celebrate each other. A friend will call you out when you are heading down a destructive path. Friends talk outside of social media. Because you go back on forth on Snapchat, doesn’t mean you are friends… you are merely snap-chatters lol. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with knowing people or having acquaintances, but can we stop giving the friend title to people that don’t deserve the title or even want the title. It will help us not get as disappointed when people don’t do things you expect your friends to do.
So as we all round up this year, let’s evaluate our friendships. Are we being good friends to the people we call are friends? Are we in relationships we think are friendships but are actually just I-know-youships. Like I said earlier, nothing wrong with those relationships, but make sure you have a better understanding of the relationships you are in.
Cheers to new friends in 2018!
P.S. if you don’t have a bestie, get yourself one…. Mine is the bestest! Love you Oyks!