Questions that need answers….

Questions that need answers….

Would you or wouldn’t you… fill in the blank!

So lately many questions have been coming up that I honestly believe need answers. When I talk to my friends and family members about these topics, people shrivel up and stop talking…. so now i’m asking you! Let’s answer these together 🙂 . I will post each question on my Instagram story in a daily poll and share the feedback… so follow me!

  1. Separate accounts in a marriage… yes or no?
  2. Adopt or foster… yes or no?
  3. Change your appearance because bae isn’t feeling it…. yes or no?
  4. Date someone of a different race… yes or no?
  5. Move for bae… yes or no?
  6. Discuss sex… not encounters… with your friends… yes or no?
  7. Discuss relationships with your friends… yes or no?
  8. Talk to your parents about relationships… yes or no?
  9. Share your dreams, goals, plans with friends… yes or no?
  10. Cook for a boyfriend or girlfriend… yes or no?
  11. Clean a boyfriend or girlfriend’s place…yes or no?
  12. Sex before marriage… let be real… yes or no?
  13. Lend money to friends or family… yes or no?
  14. Stop paying tithe because your spouse isn’t down with that… yes or no?
  15. Ladies… date a shorter guy… yes or no?
  16. Ladies… date a younger guy… yes or no?
  17. Fellas… date a taller lady….yes or no?
  18. Fellas… date an older lady… yes or no?
  19. End a friendship with someone if bae (not husband or wife) doesn’t like the person…. yes or no?
  20. Start working out if bae thinks you’re “too thick”… yes or no?
  21. Date someone with kids… yes or no?
  22. Date someone who is divorced… yes or no?
  23. Tell a friend their bae is cheating (dating)…yes or no?
  24. Tell a friend their spouse is cheating… yes or no?
  25. Date a friend’s ex… yes or no?
  26. Pray on a date…yes or no?
  27. Date someone of a different religion… yes or no?
  28. Remain friends with an ex… yes or no?
  29. Cohabitate before marriage… yes or no?
  30. Cry at work or in class.. yes or no?

Don’t forget follow me on Instagram to see what other people think! Share your questions with #MzBQuestions or DM me.

Leave your comments below. If you have any confidential questions or comments, you can message me privately!

-Lots of love ❤

MzB

#iamSeye

#iamSeye

So I started a blog and no one knows why, I barely know why I started. What I do know is that I always felt like I had nothing to share but I guess I was wrong about that….

Any who… for those who want to know more about me. I’ve decided to share about myself. Who am I?

Well here we gooooooooo!

  • Name: Seye.. lol duh
  • Age: 27
  • Birthday: May 15
  • NationalityNIGERIAN
  • Occupation: Logistics Analyst & Wedding Planner
  • School: U of Pittsburgh.. Go Panthers!
  • Location: Maryland
  • Siblings: Yes- older brother, little sister… they love me
  • Status: Single… and very much satisfied 🙂
  • Greatest accomplishment: stepping out in faith and launching The Willow
  • Greatest fear: not fulfilling my calling and living a purposeless life 😦
  • Religion: Christian- I love me some Jesus
  • Children: 2 or 4 coming soon… God willing!
  • Fave Bible verse: Philippians 4: 6-7
  • Fave Movie: Dirty Dancing
  • Fave food: Yam Porridge (Asaro)
  • Fun fact: I’m a secret baby… i cry a lot.. i have excess water in my body lol
  • Most random thing done lately: Cut my hair …
  • Dream Vacation Destinations: Fiji & Maldives
  • Likes:
    • ice cream
    • selfies
    • food
    • music
    • Family- I have so many fake cousins and by force siblings… love you all ❤
    • sleeping
    • weddings
    • people
    • hugs
    • Mens lol
    • chai tea
    • loudness.. i tend to get passionate lol
    • Destiny Church love it!!!!
    • Thanksgiving … gobble gobble
    • babies – age 2 and under only lol
    • shoessssssssssssssssssssssss.. i have to many to count.. it’s really a problem
    • Fall fashion ❤
    • pretty pictures
    • journaling… well writing in my journal.. i guess that’s not a word yet -_-
    • Nigerian movies
    • books… this is a miracle… I used to hate reading and my dad would make me read Readers Digest by force but thank God for his diligent spirit… now I can’t stop buying books. My favorite book, besides the Bible of course… Uninvited by Lysa TerKeurst
    • Massages
    • Mani/Pedis
    • self love! Nobody can love you more than you love yourself… well besides Jesus 🙂
    • gum…not sure i can continue this.. i just got 2 root canals… they were horrible!!! stay away from candy people!
    • wearing black
  • Dislikes:
    • bananas…
    • pickles
    • jello.. the texture is just not okay
    • silence
    • awkward people
    • Pride
    • liars 😦
    • bugs
    • outdoors
    • wet hair
    • colorful food… i can’t really explain this
    • pencils
    • biology
    • chemistry
    • Amala & Fufu
    • Railcars … the thought of them annoys me thanks to my job

If you want to know anything else… just ask!

Lots of Love

-MzB

Wedding Planner… yay or nay ?

Wedding Planner… yay or nay ?

WP

One of the most important days in any woman’s life is her wedding day! This day is one that many have thought about for sooo long while others just wing it and enjoy it when the time comes. Where do you fall…? Have you been planning your big day since you were five… or are you like me, ready to get it over with and just enjoy the marriage? Many people enjoy all the intricacies of planning a wedding while others would gladly have someone else do it. I definitely fall into the latter. Yes, I’m a wedding planner who does not want to plan her own wedding.

As a wedding planner I guess my response to this question would be somewhat biased, but even if I wasn’t, I would always say Yay!!! Why do all that work when you could have someone who enjoys the process, have fun making your dream a reality?? I understand that wedding planning is intimate and very special, but if you could get someone else to use their expertise while you prepare to do life with a stranger, why wouldn’t you?

For many wedding planners, engagement season is when all the fun begins for us. Meeting new clients, venue outings, talking to vendors and beginning the planning process can be extremely exciting but it’s also means time to get to work. From building new client portfolios to booking clients, the organized chaos begins! So if we enjoy this “organized chaos”, why would so many brides choose to do it themselves? I don’t know but I have a few ideas:

  1. They are CRAZY, lol
  2. They enjoy this organized chaos
  3. They are CRAZY, no but really 🙂
  4. They suffer from I can do it on my own syndrome
  5. They think it would be fun
  6. They have Nobody will accurately execute what is my brain syndrome
  7. They have control issues
  8. They are DIY queens!
  9. They just genuinely enjoy planning things.
  10. The cost doesn’t justify the services provided

I’m a wedding planner and I know it is a fun adventure from meeting the bride to watching everything come to life. The idea of helping someone plan, execute and celebrate their special day brings joy to my heart. Unlike many planners, I do not necessarily have a price list because I am open to customizing something just for my clients. Depending on your budget, I will try to make your dreams a reality. Want to know more?

Shoot me an email. The Willow

-MzB

The Willow

The Willow

So I decided to officially start my own wedding and event planning company in August of 2017. After moving to Maryland to begin my new chapter, I decided it was time to step out in faith and do something big. Planning had always been a passion of mine, so why not get paid to do it, I thought. The thing is, when I moved here, I was scared to step out. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the Maryland Wedding Industry, it is supersaturated with Nigerian wedding planners. I didn’t want to become another Nigerian planner. I knew I wanted to do something different but I didn’t know how to separate myself.

I remember doing research on all the planners in Maryland and it just seemed like there were a million and one already here. How do I stand out, what makes me different, why would people want to work with someone with no website, no clients, no Instagram, no reviews and frankly no experience in Maryland? All these horrid thoughts crowded my head but I was sure that this is what God wanted me to do. I began looking for people to shadow and intern with hoping someone would want free help, at the end of the day I had 4 years experience planning and running weddings, so why would they say no? Fortunately for me, all I received was no after no after no. Why fortunately, well it was God’s way of telling me to be bold and courageous and not to be afraid. He was telling me that I didn’t have to hide under the covering of someone else’s business because He will support me and help me build mine.

Now it was time to create a business… what will the name be? I tried to come up with names but nothing seemed right. I even went as far as to recruit family and friends and bribe my little cousins with a share of a no-name business if they came up with great name. All those efforts yielded nothing….Nothing! I remember one day while praying, I knelt down on the floor in the room and said “God i will not leave this spot until you give me a name”, I guess it was my little version of Jacob wrestling with God. A few minutes later I heard very clearly “Willow“. I remember thinking… “huh, Willow…? Like Willow Smith? God what is a willow?” It sounded so weird but it was just perfect, well compared to my previous idea of Sashey’s Soirees , LOL.

So why Willow? Well, I googled Willow I found, “slender, graceful, resilient, determined, courageous and beautiful”. All words that I hoped to God defined me… well slender maybe if i keep going to the gym, but the rest just seemed so perfect. It was like God was encouraging me to become more like a Willow. The next day I spoke to my Aunt who said Willow… that’s perfect you can name your event center The Willow and I laughed because i knew this is a dream that God placed on my heart and I am excited to see it happen.

So where is Willow now and how is it going? In the 5 months The Willow has been alive, I have booked 4 weddings. Can somebody say GOD IS FAITHFUL!!! With no reviews, no brochures, no pictures, no MD experience, no nothing… God continues to show himself. He has shown me that all it takes is a little faith

Join me on my wedding journey… follow @thewillowevents

Lots of Love!

-MzB

 

For wedding planning inquiries…click here!

info@thewillowevents.com

240-389-3164.

 

Valentines Day…What’s that?

Valentines Day…What’s that?

Valentine’s day… what’s that? Not only have I never had a Valentine, in the many years that I have been alive, I have only celebrated Valentines day once.. thanks to my awesome college roomies in 2011.

You see in my home, Valentines day was not Valentines day that the world has grown to obsess over. It wasn’t a day I spent out with bae or being all romantical with a guy who claimed to love me. In actuality it took me a while to understand why people were acting so crazy when this day was not about them but it was actually about my parents. For the past 27 years, Valentines day has been my parents anniversary and that’s what I have always known it to be and celebrated. It is the day I get to celebrate the awesome marriage my parents have displayed in front of me my whole life. Not only do they showcase what a Godly happy marriage should be like on this day, they display it every single day. Don’t get me wrong, no marriage is perfect, but these two awesome people I get to call my parents have shown me what God wants marriage to look like. They have shown me how to forgive, how to be humble, how to serve, how to love and how to embody Christ in your marriage.

Until recently, I did not know how blessed I am to have parents who don’t fight in front of you, parents who pray for you, parents who want to ensure that the love  between each and every single member of the family is unbroken. I didn’t know that this was not the norm until I started talking to other people about growing up and how their parents were. You see for me, waking up everyday at 6 am for family devotion is normal. Talking to your parents about life and relationships is normal. Laughing and acting a damn fool in the house is normal. Little did I know that all these “normal” things are blessings from God and not to be taken for granted.

For many of us, the relationship we see between our parents has a huge impact on how we see and define relationships for ourselves in the future. The picture of love and marriage that my parents have chosen to paint for my siblings and I is one that has molded and shaped my thinking about what my future marriage should look like. It has helped me to be excited to have devotion with my children and husband and ensure there is always laughter in my home. It has given me a positive image of a happy marriage, one that I am grateful to God for.

So on this Valentines day.. aka my parents wedding anniversary, I say to married couples, be careful what picture you are painting for your children. Be the example of what a godly marriage should look like every single day and not just one day a year. Your children are always watching and most learned habits are unspoken. To single people, whatever you have been through is not your fault. Learn to forgive your parents; They can only pour out of what they were given.  Let God heal you by letting go of all your hurt. Your past hurts are not an indication of what your future will look like.

And finally to my parents…thank you mommy and daddy for showing me what love looks like everyday and not just on February 14th. 

Happy 31st Anniversary. I wish you many more!

Happy birthday to my baby bro, Valentine 😜!

-MzB

Whatchu thinking?

Whatchu thinking?

You are what you think. Ever notice a really positive person all of a sudden become very negative; or someone who used to be really carefree all of a sudden becomes extremely cautious. Well the reason is…. you can become what you spend your time thinking about. You become what you feed your mind. The things in our minds, thoughts, heart and soul are what come out of us. It’s all just a cycle… honestly.

For about 6 years or so, I have stopped listening to the radio and watching news and certain tv shows. I noticed that the type of music I listened to unconsciously molded my thought pattern. The songs I filled myself up with became my default thoughts every morning and all through out my day. I decided I didn’t want to fill myself up with these types of songs any longer so I changed the message I was sending my self. The more I listened to encouraging Christian songs, the more encouraged I felt.

Watching love and hip hop and shows that encouraged bad behavior skewed my thinking about certain things and desensitized me to things that would ordinarily vex my spirit. Not only were my thoughts and opinions affected negatively but it also impacted my morals. The news I watched was mostly negative. It was almost like reporting something positive was a crime. Filling yourself up with bad news all the time is terrible! Flee from all appearances of evil!

Fast forward 6 years, I have come to realize that we are more sensitive than we think. The things we see, the songs we hear, the people we surround ourselves with have more of an effect on us than we think. You only pour out what is inside of you. If you don’t like what is coming out of you… change what’s on the inside by changing what is going in. The Bible says out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. To change what flows out of you, change what you allow into you.

Instead of knocking and bucking, try some encouraging, soothing music. Read self help books instead of watching Criminal Minds for 5 hours at a time. Open up your Bible and read a verse a day instead of finding out what Trump did wrong. Scandal is supposed to be scandalous, hence the name. If it doesn’t feel o so scandalous to you any longer, something inside of you has changed or you have become desensitized to it.

The things inside your heart and mind are obviously also what you will think about. Instead of thinking about how horrible your life is and how far behind you are on your goals and achievements, think about all the good things you have going for you and how awesome you are as a person. Even if you aren’t, nobody is perfect boo. The more you dwell on the negative, the more negative you become. Your thoughts give birth to your actions, and most times our actions are a reflection of who we are.

Philippians 4:8 says “…my brothers and sisters, fill your minds with those things that are good and that deserve praise: things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and honourable.”

Whatchu thinking about?

-MzB

Waiting Sucks!

Waiting Sucks!

Who do you talk to?? When you need advice, when you have doubts, when you feel really low or really down, who is that person in your life that makes it all feel better? Who encourages you, who scolds and checks you, who guides you in life? Who prays for you, keeps you accountable and challenges you? Who is your mentor?

Well, for the first 25.5 years of my life, I didn’t have a mentor. I didn’t have anyone that I felt accountable to. I walked through life making decisions based on how I felt and what I thought would benefit me. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think I was being selfish.. at least I hope I wasn’t, but I didn’t feel like my actions or decisions would let any one down… well besides God I guess. Having a mentor or some one to guide me and hold me accountable was something I had wanted for a while but it just didn’t happened.

After graduating from college, I moved back home with no job and no idea where my life was headed. It was difficult to be optimistic, but thank God for family and praying parents. After a few months at home, I eventually got a job. Throughout my 4 years of living at home and working, it seemed like God was teasing me with “mentors”. He would bring certain people into my life for the specific times and situations I was going through, but then they would either move or sort of fade away.  It was a bit strange but somehow God was always looking out for me.

At the beginning of every year I would ask God to bring me a mentor, but He just wouldn’t listen, lol… talk about frustrating but He was teaching me to be patient, little did I know that the worlds bestest mentor aka my Big Seester was right around the corner.

Not only is my mentor beyond amazing, she is everything I prayed for and more. I had always wondered what my relationship with my potential mentor would be like and what we would do or talk about. Would the person be old or young, male or female, Nigerian or not, tall or short, emotional, crazy, loud, friendly, shy, lover of God? Well not only did God exceed my expectations in every way, sometimes i feel like she loves me more than I love me.

Looking back on the last year, I can’t help but be extremely grateful to God. This past year with my mentor has taught me that God gives perfect Gifts and although the waiting period absolutely sucks sometimes, its most definitely worth it in the end. He gives gifts that add no sorrow. Because His ways are nothing like our ways, ideas or dreams, count on him to exceed your expectations always. Patience is a virtue because it is not easy to be patient, but after waiting for a while for something, you learn to appreciate it even more when you get it.

No, I don’t want to just brag about the awesomeness of my mentor, lol, I want to encourage you that although waiting on God or anything is not the easiest thing, what is on the other side of your wait will be more amazing than you can imagine. I know how long I prayed for a mentor and God responded at the perfect time with the perfect person. So don’t give up, don’t let go, just wait and be patient and I can say whole-heartedly that what you are waiting for will blow you away at the right time, if God is in it!

Also, no man is an island. Get yourself a mentor. Navigating life on your own with no one guiding you or keeping you accountable is not wise. Proverbs 20:18 says “Plans succeed with good counsel, don’t go to war without advice.”

Prayer of encouragement- “God keep me firm on faith during my wait”

Lots of Love

MzB